Do We really need to be yelled at!

I am really bothered by something. Why does my pastor believe he need to yell to get his point across. As I grow with maturity, this has really started to plague me. Every week, I can't seem to hear what he is saying, its like he is trying to force it down my throat so that I will believe it. It is getting so tiresome. I want to be taught with the wisdom and maturity that Christ spoke to his disciples. Even when he rebuked them He didn't yell. He talked to them, admonished them, and up lifted them. I am not looking for my ears to be tickled here. I want to be spoken to as an adult, not a child. As I tradition to adult relationship with my children, there is no room for discipline or instruction, It is listening, sharing and encouraging them. Christ loves us, He wants us to grow up, and see the world as hurting and needing encouragement. I need that too. I wish my pastor would recognize that and stop yelling.